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Sunday, April 17, 2011

Had to share...

After writing about my friend whose daughter is being bullied at school, another friend sent me a scripture about bullying. And wow, is it ever right on the mark! And it doesn't tell us to fight. I encourage you all to use the scripture to teach your children about bullying and God. I know I will be using it with my children.

The dialogue that Friday morning was bitter.
From the onlookers, “Come down from the cross if you are the Son of God!”
From the religious leaders, “He saved others but he can’t save himself.”
From the soldiers, “If you are the king of the Jews, save yourself.”
Bitter words. Acidic with sarcasm. Hateful. Irreverent. Wasn’t it enough that he was being crucified? Wasn’t it enough that he was being shamed as a criminal? Were the nails insufficient? Was the crown of thorns too soft? Had the flogging been too short?
For some, apparently so...
Of all the scenes around the cross, this one angers me the most. What kind of people, I ask myself, would mock a dying man? Who would be so base as to pour the salt of scorn upon open wounds? How low and perverted to sneer at one who is laced with pain…
The words thrown that day were meant to wound. And there is nothing more painful than words meant to hurt…
If you have suffered or are suffering because of someone else’s words, you’ll be glad to know that there is a balm for this laceration. Meditate on these words from 1 Peter 2:23 (NIV):
“When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly.”
Did you see what Jesus did not do? He did not retaliate. He did not bite back. He did not say, “I’ll get you!” “Come on up here and say that to my face!” “Just wait until after the resurrection, buddy!” No, these statements were not found on Christ’s lips.
Did you see what Jesus did do? He “entrusted himself to him who judges justly.” Or said more simply, he left the judging to God. He did not take on the task of seeking revenge. He demanded no apology. He hired no bounty hunters and sent out no posse. He, to the astounding contrary, spoke on their defense. “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”? (Luke 23:34 NIV)…
“they don’t know what they are doing.”
And when you think about it, they didn’t. They hadn’t the faintest idea what they were doing. They were a stir-crazy mob, mad at something they couldn’t see so they took it out on, of all people, God. But they didn’t know what they were doing.
Yes, the dialogue that Friday morning was bitter. The verbal stones were meant to sting. How Jesus, with a body wracked with pain, eyes blinded by his own blood, and lungs yearning for air, could speak on behalf of some heartless thugs is beyond my comprehension. Never, never have I seen such love. If ever a person deserved a shot at revenge, Jesus did. But he didn’t take it. Instead he died for them. How could he do it? I don’t know. But I do know that all of a sudden my wounds seem very painless. My grudges and hard feelings are suddenly childish.
Sometimes I wonder if we don’t see Christ’s love as much in the people he tolerated as in the pain he endured.
Amazing Grace.

1 comments:

Pamela M M Berkeley said...

Amongst several other things, I was teased about my weight. In sixth grade, I was actually within normal weight parameters for a kid my height (but I was taller than almost all the girls, so they called me fat) and I remember seeing a girl who was genuinely overweight in our grade. But no one teased her. So I studied her to find out why.

She was MEAN. You didn't cross her. She'd lash out and hurt anyone who looked at her cross eyed.

And I realized that we all have a choice. We can hurt or we can be hurt. And the truth is, hurting others hurts far worse than being hurt by others. Your heart has to be hardened. It's not a pretty road to go down.

So I made the choice to not hurt others. Oh, I didn't always succeed. But I tried. I was determined not to be mean and stoop to other people's level.

It didn't actually make my social situation any better. But it did make healing and forgiving my childhood bullies much easier when I grew up and saw what they were: children. I agree that children shouldn't be allowed to do that to each other. But if you and this girl's mother can help her from hardening her heart (which, you can see in the Bible, is always a bad thing) then recovering from these scars will get better.

It seemed like a lot of the mean girls (and by that I mean the ones who were obvious targets for bullying so they pre-emptively bullied, not the mean cool girls) were high on the list of the ones who got into drugs and had babies in high school.

Of course keeping a tender heart means keeping it vulnerable to be heart over and over again... but if it's tender, it can also be healed over and over again. God really got me through grade school.

And while it wasn't until college, in college I totally forgave my bullies. I really am not mad at them anymore, though I admit I have some anger towards the Woodruff school system.

But that's another story.

(Sorry my comments are so long. It's struck a chord in me.)